bouncing back and forth on confused seas? Does
your internal compass swing wildly around? Dr.
Lucy Loveboat can help calm your troubled waters.
Here’s a recent exchange of letters between the
eminent counselor and a bachelorette in Annapolis.
I met this
guy at a meet-up, one of those dating deals where
you spend two minutes talking with 20 different
men. I found myself face to face with this really
good-looking, tanned, healthy, smiling, smart,
vibrant guy. I asked him what he liked to do. He
told me he liked to cruise on his boat. I’m not a
boater. What should I do?
man. Go boating with him. Bear his children.
Involve your children in boating. It’s not just
me saying this. Research backs it up. Boating
makes marriages happier and kids healthier.
I call your
attention to an online survey of 542 boat owners
and 536 non-boat owners by Impulse Research
Corporation of Los Angeles. The findings show
that the boat owners reported higher levels of
satisfaction in marriage and romance than
non-boaters. Not only that, Anxious in Annapolis,
but boat owners more than others rated their
overall well-being, health, work, leisure, sleep
and finances as “very good” or “excellent.”
all. Another study of 1004 parents asked them
about the health and happiness of their children.
National Marine Manufacturers Association, which
also commissioned this survey, reported that the
kids who boat are healthier than their non-boating
kids physically and psychologically. They are more
outgoing, more optimistic, more self-confident,
more likely to be better team players and more
likely to be leaders among their peer group.
also shows that boating kids are more likely to do
household chores and help with cooking. They have
more interests, participating regularly in eight
activities compared to only four for non-boating
kids. Another family bonus: boating children spend
more quality time with parents, even in
Go for it,
Anxious. You’re going to get to see an exciting
side of life and perhaps a braver side of
yourself. As your family grows and goes boating
together, you’ll see your progeny absorb just the
right mixtures of independence and discipline,
courage and caution, brains and brawn. Boating
does that to its people, the young and the
teaches kids to do what Mom and Dad say. Boating
with kids teaches Mom and Dad how to have fun like
kids. Living on a boat teaches us to leave our
Game Boys and laptops at home. Living aboard
teaches us to get along and to enjoy each other’s
company and special differences.
You’ll get to
see your five-year-old excitedly watching a crab
crawl across the sand. Is that not a
mutually-exhilarating experience for mother and
child? You’ll smile inside when you watch that
little kid with muscles lower the anchor. You’ll
shed a proud mother’s tear when you overhear your
confident pre-teen on the marine radio asking the
dockmaster about a slip for the night. You’ll be
onboard when your teenager flawlessly puts your
vessel into a tight slip or carries out his or her
responsibilities during a bad situation on the
the credit card commercial, the experiences of
boating are priceless. I’d say, priceless in two
ways. One, your children learn and hone the
skills of life. And, two, you get to see them grow
into responsible, happy citizens.
Good luck to
you, Anxious in Annapolis. Luck, yes, because none
of these good things are guaranteed. You’ll still
have to work at it. Yes, of course, of course; you
should go on a few dates. But if you decide to
marry this man and join the cruising lifestyle,
you can take some comfort in the favorable odds
that boating gives you.